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Father: Sang-Phil KIM in 1975
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Mother: Ock-Ae Cho in 1975

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on 1977 New Year's Day in lunar calendar
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The Buddha Speaks the Sutra About The Deep Kindness of
PARENTS
And The Difficulty In Repaying It.
(THE FILIAL PIETY SUTRA)

        Thus I heard, at one time, the Buddha dwelt at Shravas, in the Jeta Grove, in the Garden of the Benefactor of Orphans and the Solitary, together with a gethering of great Bhikshus, twelve hundred fifty in all and with all of the Bodhisattvas, thirty-eight thousand in all.

        At that time, the World Honoured One led the great assembly on a walk toward the south. Suddenly they came upon a pile of bones beside the road. The World Honoured One turned to face them, placed his five limbs on the ground, and bowed respectfully.

        Ananda put his palms together and asked the World Honoured One, "The Tathagata is the Great Teacher of the Triple Realm and the compassionate father of beings of the entire assembly. What is the reason that he now bows to a pile of dried bones?"

        The Buddha told Ananda, "Although all of you are my foremost deciples and have been members of the Sangha for a long time, you still have not achived far-reaching understanding. This pile of bones could have belonged to my ancestors from former lives. They could have been my parents in many past lives. That is the reason I now bow to them." The Buddha continued speaking to Ananda, "These bones we are looking at can be divided into two group s. One group is composed of the bones of men, which are heavy and white in color. The other group is composed of the bones of women, which are light and black in color."

        Ananda said to the Buddha, "World Honoured One, when men are alive in the world, they adorn thier bodies with robes, belts, shoes, hats and other fine attire, so that they clearly assume a male appearance. When women are alive, they put on cosmetics, perfumes, powders, and elegant fragrances to adorn their bodies, so that they clearly assume a female appearance. Yet, once man and women die, all that is left are their bones. How does one tell them apart? Please teach us how you are able to distinguish them."

        The Buddha answered Ananda, "If when men are in the world, they enter temples, listen to explanations of Sutra and Vinaya texts, make obeisance to the Triple Gem, and recite the Buddha's names, then when they die, their bones will be heavy and white in color. Most woman in the world have little wisdom and are saturated with emotion. They give birth to and raise children, feeding that this is their duty. Each child relies on its mother's milk for life and nourishment, and that milk is a transformation of the mother's blood. Each child can drink up to one thousand two hundred gallons of its mother's milk. Because of this drain on the mother's body whereby the child takes milk for its nourishment, the mother becames worn and haggard and so her bones turn black in color and are light in weight."

        When Ananda heard these words, he felt a pain in his heart as if he had been stabbled and wept silently. He said to the World Honoured One, "How can one repay one's mother's kindness and virtue?"

        The Buddha told Ananda, "Listen well, and I will explain it for you in detail. The fetus grows in its mother's womb for ten lunar months. What bitterness she goes though while it dwells there! In the first month of pregnancy, the life of the fetus is as precarious as a dewdrop on grass: how likely that it will not last from morning to evening but will evaporate by midday!"

        "During the second lunar month, the embryo congeals like curds. In the third month it is like coagulated blood. During the fourth month of pregnancy, the fetus begins to assume a aslightly human form. During the fifth month in the womb, the child's five limbs- two legs, two arms, and a head- start to take shape. In the six lunar month of pregnancy, child begins to develop the essences of the six sense faculties: the eyes, ears, nose, tongue, body and mind. During the seventh month, the three hundred sixty bones andjoints are formed, each and the eighty-four thousand hair pores are also complete. In the eight lunar monthof the pregnancy, the intellect and nine apertures are formed. By the ninth month the fetus has learned to assimilate the different nutrients of the foods it eats. For example, it can assimilate essence of peaches, pears, certain plant roots and the five kinds of grains."

        "Inside the mother's body, the solid internal organs used for storing hang downward, while the hollow internal organs used for processing, spiral upward. These can be likened to three mountains which arise from the face of the earth. We can call these mountains Mount Sumeru, Karma Mountain, and Blood Mountain. These analogous mountains come together and form a single range in a pattern of upward peaks and downward valleys. So too, the coagulation of the mother's blood from her internal organs forms a single substance, which becames the child's food."

        "During the tneth month of pregnancy, the body of the fetus is completed and ready to be born. If the child is extremely filial, it will emerge with palms joined together in respect and the birth will be peaceful and auspicious. The mother will remain uninjured by the birth and will not suffer pain. However, if the child is extremely rebellious in nature, to the extent that it is capable of commiting the five rebellious act, then it will injure its mother's womb, rip apart its mother's heart and liver, or get entangled in its mother's bones. The birth will feel like the slices of thousand knives or like ten thousand sharp swords stabbing her heart. Those are the agonies involed in the birth of a defiant and rebellious child."

      To explain more clearly, there are ten types of kindnesses bestowed by the mother on the child:

      The first is the kindness of providing protection and care while the child is in the womb.

      The second is the kindness of bearing suffering during the birth.

      The third is the kindness of forgetting all the pain once the child has been born.

      The fourth is the kindness of eating the bitter herself and saving the sweet for the child.

      The fifth is the kindness of moving the child to a dry place and lying in the wet herself.

      The sixth is the kindness of suckling the child at her breast, nourishing and bringing up the child.

      The seventh is the kindness of washing away the unclean.

      The eight is the kindness of always thinking of child when it has travelled far.

      The ninth is the kindness of deep care abd devotion.

      The tenth is the kindness of ultimate pity and sympathy.


1.  THE KINDNESS OF
      PROVIDING PROTECTION AND CARE WHILE THE CHILD IS IN THE WOMB
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      The Causes and conditions from accumulated kalpas grows heavy, until in this life the child ends up in its mother's womb. As the months pass, the five vital organs develop; Within seven weeks the six sense organs start to grow. The mother's body becames as heavy as a mountain; The stillness and movements of the fetus are like a kalpic wind disaster. The mother's fine clothers no longer hang properly, And so her mirror gathers dust.

2.  THE KINDNESS OF BEARING SUFFERING DURING BIRTH,
     The pregnancy lasts for ten lunar months, And culminates in difficult labour at the approach of the birth. Meanwhile, each morning the mother is seriously ill and during each day drowsy and sluggish. Her fear and agitation are difficult to describe; Grieving and tears fill her breast. She painfully tells her family, That she is only afraid that death will overtake her.

3.  THE KINDNESS OF
     FORGETTING ALL THE PAIN ONCE THE CHILD HAS BEEN BORN
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     On the day the compassionate mothers bears the child, Her five organs all open wise, Livng her totally exhausted in body and mind. The blood flows as from a slaughtered lamb; Yet, upon hearing that the child is healthy, She is overcome with redoubling joy, But after the joy, the grief returns, And the agony wrenches her very insides.

4.  THE KINDNESS OF
     EATING THE BITTER HERSELF AND SAVING THE SWEET FOR THE CHILD
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     The kindness of both parents is profound and deep, Their care and devotion never cease. Never resting, the mother saves the sweet for child, And without complain she swallows the bitter herself. Her love is weighty and her emotion difficult to bear; Her kindness is deep and so is her compassion. Only wanting the child to get its fill, The compassionate mother doesn't speak of her own hunger.

5.  THE KINDNESS OF
     MOVING THE CHILD TO A DRY PLACE AND LYING IN THE WET HERSELF
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     The mother is willing to be wet So that the child can be dry, With her two breasts she satisfies its hunger and thirst; Covering it with her sleeve, she protects it from the wind and cold. In kindness, her head rarely rests on the pillow, And yet she does this happily, So long as the child is comfortable, The kind mother seeks no solace for herself.

6.  THE KINDNESS OF SUCKLING
     THE CHILD AT HER BREAST, NOURISHING AND BRING UP THE CHILD
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     The kind mother is like the great earth. The stern father is like the encompassing heaven: One covers from above; the other supports from below. The kindness of parents is such that They know no hatred or anger toward thier offspring, And are not displeased, even if the child is born crippled. After the mother carries the child in her womb and birth to it, The parents care for and protect it together until the end of thier days.

7.  THE KINDNESS OF WASHING AWAY THE UNCLEAN,
     Originally, she had a pretty face and a beautiful body, Her spirit was strong and vibrant. Her eyebrows were like fresh green willows, And her complexion would have put a red rose to shame. But her kindness is so deep she will forgo a beautiful face. Although washing away the filth injures her constituition, The kind mother acts solely for the sake of her sons and daughters, And willingly allows her beauty to fade.

8.  THE KINDNESS OF ALWAYS
      THINKING OF THE CHILD WHEN IT HAS TRAVEL FAR
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      The death of loved one is difficult to endure. But separation is also painful. WHen the child travels afar, The mother worries in her village. From morning until night, her heart is with her child, And a thousand tears fall from her eyes. Like the monkey weeping silently in love for her child, Bit by bit her heart is broken.

9.  THE KINDNESS OF DEEP CARE AND DEVOTION,
     How heavy is parental kindness and emotional concern! Their kindness is deep and difficult to repay. Willingly they undergo suffering on their child's behalf. If the child toils, the parents are uncomfortable. If they hear that he has travelled far, They worry that at night he will have to lie in the cold. Even a moment's pain suffered by their sons and daughters. Will cause the parents sustained distress.

10.  THE KINDNESS OF ULTIMATE COMASSION AND SYMPATHY,
      The kindness of parents is profound and important. their tender concern never cease. From the moment they awake each day, their thought are with their children. Wheather the children are near or far away, the parents think of them often. Even if a mother lives for a hundred years, She will constantly worry about her eighty year old child. Do you wish to know when such kindness and love ends? It doesn't even begin to dissipate until her life is over!

        The Buddha told Ananda, "When I contemlate living beings, I see that although they are born as human beings, nonetheless, they are ignorant and dull in their thought and actions. They don't consider their parents' great kindness and virtue. They are disrespectful and turn their backs on kindness and what is right. They lack humaneness and are neither filial nor compliant."

        "For ten months while the mother is with child, she feels discomfort each time she rises, as if she were lifting a heavy burden. Like a chronic invalid, she is unable to keep her food and drink down. When the ten months have passed and the time comes for the birth, she undergoes all kinds of pain and suffering so that the child can be born. She is afraid of her own mortality, like a pig or lamb waiting to be slaughtered. Then the blood flows all over the ground. These are the sufferings she undergo."


Translated by : Upasika Terri Nicholson
Certified by : Venerable Abbot Hua


To be contined...
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